We live in a world of "fine".
Even if you don't feel happy. Even if you feel like there's more to life:
"Yeah, it's not ideal but I'm fine"
"This is how it's always been. I've survived. I'll be fine".
"I don't really know how I would change. Anyway, it's fine"
Of course, this is fine... if "fine" is where you want to be.
But here's why "fine" can be such a dangerous place to operate from.
1) It is a limbo state where the situation is not ideal but you convince yourself that it not bad either. So therefore there is no motivation to change.
2) This thinking pattern leads to numbing the parts of you that do long for change and want to thrive.
3) Therefore you stop trying to improve and grow out of your rut, and start focusing on the "not so bad" parts of your situation and remind yourself that it could be worse; in an attempt to ease the pain
4) This state of limbo can cost you without you even noticing. Relationships, your well being, money and energy, years and decades of time... And who knows what else.
The only 2 ways to get out of this limbo state is to:
A. Continue until it's so painful that change forces itself upon you (hitting rock bottom)
B. Acknowledge the severity and urgency for change and act on it now
So fuck it. No more lying to yourself. No more numbing. You are so worth it. The world needs you to thrive.
So, head out the sand and answer this:
How much is it costing you to stay "fine"? Emotionally, mentally, in relationships, time-wise or financially?
Alara is a WHY discovery coach, NLP practitioner, a Rite of Passage Facilitator and a Yoga/Meditation teacher. She specialises in helping business owners find and articulate their vision.